Once an engagement is announced, the party parade can start. Showers are included in the group of parties planned for the newly engaged couples. There may be several showers planned or there may be just one, but there are some shower etiquette tips that brides may find helpful.
Who hosts the shower?
Friends, not relatives, give showers. Members of the bride’s and groom’s immediate families do not give showers. Often the honor attendant and bridesmaids will hostess a shower. Work colleagues may plan a get together and friends of either family may host a shower. Note that anyone who is invited to a shower should also receive an invitation to the wedding. Bride’s need to consider the expense of showers for members of her wedding party. It is usual for all of the bride’s attendants to be included in the guest list of every shower.
When and where is the shower held?
It can be held any day of the week and any hour of the day. It can be a potluck supper, a poolside brunch, an at home party or elaborate event in a restaurant.Showers are usually held from four to six weeks prior to the wedding, with two weeks being the cut-off date. The primary focus of any shower is the opening of the gifts. If traditional games are played and prizes given, the winner should not feel obligated to give the prize to the bride. At one time that was considered “proper”, but the tradition has all but faded away. It is customary to ask someone to keep track of the gifts and the givers. Accurate records will help the bride
write thank you notes to each guest. The notes should go out in the week following the shower. It is a nice touch to send flowers to the hostess with her thank you note.
While “all girl” events are still standard, couple’s showers are increasing in popularity and offer a slightly different approach to “showering” the engaged
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