It doesn’t matter how long you spend planning it or the number of people who assist you – there is always a chance that “ Murphy” will visit your wedding or event and maybe even bring friends. While you may not be in control of everything (though I try to be), there are some things you can do to prevent problems from occurring and minimize those problems that do.
If possible, arrange to have a wedding or event planner/advisor available to assist you at the beginning of your preparations or hire one to oversee all of the details for you. Make realistic plans to begin with. Don’t create undue stress and complications by planning an event that is out
of your financial means, the time available or who you are.
Be organized and disciplined. Stick to your plans and stay focused. You will eliminate wheel spinning, indecision and wasted energy.
Pay attention to details. You can prevent big problems later if you pay attention to the small print now. As the experts say, “The devil is in the details”.
Stay positive. Remember why you are getting married or having your event in the first place. When the wedding or event preparations seem to take on a life of their own and you find yourself wondering if it is all worth it, remember why you are doing it. You are celebrating the union of your two lives or you are bring family and friends together. That’s a big thing and worth a little chaos. Make decisions. Don’t dither. Trust your gut instinct. And if early decisions don’t work out, make changes.
Stay flexible and be ready to detour if needed. How you view road bumps has a lot to do with how you handle them. Be prepared to either go around them or skim over the top of them.
Don’t be a “ bridezilla” or be negative. What an appalling way for a woman to behave or for anyone to behave, under any circumstances and over plans for a day which is to celebrate her new life or celebrate togetherness, it is unacceptable.
Be prepared for some things to veer off plan. Anticipate them and have alternatives at the ready.
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It is always amazing to me when seemingly well-educated people don’t get why they should RSVP when the invitation clearly requests it.
Knowing the total number of expected guests is critical at weddings and other large events because of the costs and deadlines involved in meal planning and preparation. But even for smaller social events, I lament the fact that people either don’t know what RSVP means or worse, choose to ignore it.
When working with brides, coordinators and planners are expected to know the social “rules” and to help their clients incorporate them into the celebration planning. Here are a few criteria to keep in mind and share with clients.
1. As Emily Post says, “No one is obligated to accept an invitation or to explain their reasons for not accepting. However, when someone is kind enough to extend an invitation, one should be just as kind and reply to the invitation.” Unfortunately, this is not always done.
2. Ask for help. If you have invited someone to your wedding and have included a reply card with a return by requested date and you still haven’t heard back, the best solution is to press bridesmaids or family relatives into helping you contact all those persons who have yet to reply. If a phone call is in order, helpers can say something like this: “Hi (the invitee's name), this is (the caller's name, bridesmaid, maid of honor, etc.). I’m calling to make sure that you have received the invitation to (couple's name)’s wedding. The bride hasn’t heard from you yet and needs to know if you plan to attend. The count needs to be in by (let them know the date). Everyone is looking forward to seeing you.” If you are leaving a voice mail message, add “ Please call, text or email me back at (give a phone number and email)”.
3. Respond in the same manner that the invitation was issued. If an invitation to an event has come via e-mail then an e-mail response is in order.
We know that the success of a wedding or event flows from dozens of thoughtful gestures and touches. While everything from the setting to the beauty of the cake is important, it is the graciousness and warmth of the couple being married that turns the event into magic.
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We know that one style and one color do not fit all people. The color palettes on today’s dinnerware reflect the diversity of people’s tastes. Colors do however make a statement. Shades of pinks, peach and banana are considered relaxing colors. Blues, greens and turquoise are refreshing shades.
We know that today’s brides want to follow tradition– but just so far! Today’s bride wants to find ways to put her personal stamp on this important ceremony. She wants to personalize and customize as many parts of the wedding as she can. Here are some traditional ideas with new looks. Of course you want the first dance at your reception to feature your groom and you. But who says it has to be a slow dance? Many couples are taking dance lessons together so that the opening dance features them in a new way. Consider doing a tango. If that isn’t right for you, what about another dance with a Latin flavor? Salsa? Rumba? During the reception you two will be the focus of many toasts to your happiness. Why not toast your guests in return? Thank them for attending your wedding and for their roles in your lives. Do you need a cake?
Many couples say yes, but… Then they proceed to have several smaller cakes instead of the large showpiece. Those smaller cakes often find themselves as centerpieces at each table. Or the couple may choose cupcakes, or cheesecakes or pies or other exotic desserts. Some couples may pass on the cake entirely and opt instead for fruit or ice cream sundaes. It is your call. It used to be that couples left their reception early and guests stayed to party on. Today’s couple is likely to stay through the last dance and send guests home with their good wishes. Instead of throwing their gorgeous wedding bouquet, more and more brides are choosing a smaller bouquet to toss or are omitting that part of the reception all together. Many are choosing to present the bouquet to their mothers or grandmothers with a big thank you. This is your day and our job is to help you create the day that says YOURS!
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The best way to describe the changing nature of receptions is to notice that they have evolved into more than just a formalized event as the term “reception” implies. More and more couples are choosing the term “celebration” to describe the party atmosphere and events they are planning for themselves and their guests. Instead of having the day slip away in a blur, brides and grooms want to have a good time at their party and take away wonderful memories. This is one of the biggest parties that most couples will ever give. They want everyone to have fun – themselves included.
Whether the celebration will be in a church basement or outdoors, one thing that is changing is the seating of guests. Reception “rules” have had the bridal party sitting at formal head tables, lined up according to one’s role in the wedding. But more and more couples are choosing not to have a head table and instead seat themselves with special family members or friends in the center of the eating area. Sitting in the middle of things – among family and friends – not apart from them, will help the couple to better enjoy their first meal together as husband and wife.
The remaining people in their wedding party and families are scattered at tables with other guests to encourage the celebration tone. They can talk about the wedding and events leading up to it that other guests may not know. It can make good mealtime conversation and is a way to involve guests more intimately with the event. You may still choose to have special place cards/table numbers for guests. For some brides and their mothers, trying to engineer the “perfect” mix of guests at each table is the hardest thing they do for the party. Others give up and let groups find their own places. Whether you are having a formal sit down dinner or a buffet, the best bet is to select round tables. These always allow an easier flow of conversation among guests. Providing a centerpiece for each table also places each guest at a decorated space at your party.
If you can’t have round tables and must use rectangular ones, request that they seat no more than six per table. At least with this number, everyone can hear everything that is said and conversation can flow. There is more space for each person to enjoy his/her food and beverage. For more celebration ideas, stop in and talk with one of our experienced consultants. We have party plans we know you’ll love. Ideas on music, cakes, decorations and favors can help you plan a party to remember.
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We encourage our brides to talk about their wedding plans so that we can help them with their invitations. Save-the-date cards are an important part of your plans, especially if the bride is inviting many out-of-town guests or if the wedding is being celebrated over a holiday weekend. Ideally, they are sent out as early as six months prior to the wedding. Because invitations offer guests a sneak preview of the tone and formality of the wedding, much thought should be given to the selection. Formal wording should be used for formal and church weddings. Individuality can be expressed by choosing unique sizes, textures, colors, overlays and ribbons. While announcements are nice to send to those friends who live far away, invitations are a bit more personal and give the recipient a chance to attend or not. Unless the wedding is an ultra intimate affair, a reply card with a self-stamped, preaddressed envelope should be enclosed. Optional enclosures can be added such as dinner preferences, or, if it is a weekend affair, guests may be given the option to choose activities they would like to attend. Invitations should be mailed ten to twelve weeks before the event, especially to guests that are far away.
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Brides ask us about the best way to announcement their engagement. It is happy news and you'll want to share it with everyone. Here are some helpful guidelines.
The first people to be told should be the bride's parents and both of you should be present to tell them in person. If they do not live nearby, an excited phone call from the bride to her parents is acceptable and then tries to schedule a time for them to meet the groom if they have not met him. If the groom has not discussed his plans with his parents, they should be the next to know the big news.
Both sets of parents should get together for introductions, either in a home or a restaurant. This gathering can be a time to talk about some of the wedding details like the number of guests and kind of wedding you two are planning After parents are informed, next you'll want to let close friends and relatives know. You may write or call them individually or you may wish to surprise them all at once and announce your news at a family gathering or party.
Engagement parties have traditionally been hosted by the bride's parents though you and your finance may elect to host the party yourselves. Once the date and some details have been agreed upon, an announcement, usually by the bride's parents may be published. Newspapers provide a form that is to be completed and submitted with an engagement photograph. The engagement is normally not announced prior to one year before the wedding and not later than six weeks ahead of the ceremony date.
When we first say "yes", we usually have no real idea about what the dream day will cost; of course many of us are surprised at how quickly expenses can add up. Keep that happy smile and joy in your heart because there are lots of ways to cut costs and still have Your Dream Wedding. This is a series of tips for cutting costs based expert strategies and recently married brides and grooms.
Are you really saving by stocking up on sale items you might need? Absolutely Not! Don't get carried away thinking you are going to save money by stocking up on gadgets you see online or elsewhere. By all means, if you have a real need for seventy-five do-hickies, then buy them, but don't buy with a vague plan in mind, it is wasteful and eats at your budget, and creeps you closer to going over budget and not having the funds you need for that centerpiece.
Every cent counts! Start saving change in a jar, you will be pleasantly surprised and how quickly the loose change grows. I once started taking all my change (small and large bills and coins) and put in a jar. The goal was to buy a new phone and wanted to see how much I could save. I was quite surprised when I tallied up the bills and coins in a short 6 month span; over $130! Start your change savings.
Must you invite your best friends, sister's uncle's cousin that you have not seen since you were five? You may not know what the person look like. A wedding is about sharing your special day with family and friends, usually people you socialize with frequently. However, if you have platinum dollars, invite them, if not, consider a small guest list. On average, ten percent of guest invited do not attend. Use the money to splurge on reception favors or whatever you like.
Friends and family members who agree to be members of the bridal party need to be thanked for their roles in making a wedding day special. Giving a gift is a great way to emphasize thanks to people who are doing so much for the couple. They are spending time and money and effort and love as participants in this very important day.
Brides and grooms, who think that bridal party gifts are just money clips for the guys and pearl earrings for the girls, are in for a surprise. Today's brides and grooms are eager to make their expressions of gratitude a more personal statement than in the past. They are spending time working with gift specialists in the jewelry store where their rings were purchased, or with consultants in gift and table top departments who have helped them create a meaningful gift registry, or with the bridal consultants in their fashion store who helped them with their gown and tuxedo selections.
Today's gifts are mementos - tokens of gratitude for the role the bridal party has played in this special day. The gifts chosen reflect the importance of that role. While jewelry items that can be worn the day of the wedding remain popular, the range of bridesmaid and groomsman gifts has broadened to include glassware, bar-ware, silver items like picture frames, dressing accessories, personal accessory items, artwork and fine writing accessories. Groomsmen gifts include well-made knives, flasks, and key rings. Rare coins, poker sets in pre packed cases, fine leather goods and jewelry items for both maids and groomsmen remain popular.
Whatever the gift chosen for bridal party attendants, the couple should be reminded to include gift items for the bride's and groom's parents. A meaningful gift can be a lovely double crystal picture frame that has room for the wedding photograph on one side and a thank you note or sample invitation on the other.
Thanking those who have helped to make the wedding day so memorable is a special privilege.
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